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Love and second chances in life are the two things that are considered to be rare. Thus it is of most importance to be very cautious before you throw another chance at love away - even though it is perhaps terrifying in your part to give that second chance. This does not mean, though, that you have to give warning to the wind. You can follow procedural steps and let him work for it.
He hurt you. There's no way to look past that. Whether he's the one who broke up with you or his actions (or lack thereof) led to the eventual breakup. Now he's sitting there across the table asking you for a mulligan or relationship do-over. How can you believe he's changed enough that a second chance will work out any better than the first?
Consider these few helpful advice in order for you not to experience again the issues between the two of you.
Don't Pick Up Where You Left Off
Second chances sound great on the surface but new beginnings are even better. With a new beginning you must both agree to wipe the slate clean and start over with the relationship. You can't hold on to old grudges and arguments. You also can't hold each other responsible for things that happened before. It's a new beginning and you must both be responsible for announcing problems and needs in the relationship before they become insurmountable. This, more than anything else, can help you avoid a second heart-breaking end.
Understand that it's OK to Disagree
Assuredly say, all couples have several issues where you need to say yes to disagree. It is necessary to be wise enough in picking up your battles. Sometimes you will come to the point that you should rise up for an issue or cause. Sometimes it is crucial to let your partner win the said issue. Other times, you just have the decision to disagree realizing that it's not really that important. It is a must for you not to agree on everything to have a favorable and winning relationship.
Learn to Ask Questions and Volunteer Information
We all have wants and needs in relationships. It's important that you avoid holding your partner responsible for the wants and needs you have that aren't being met if you never let him know what they are. You know so much about each other but there are still things that are mysterious about each other. He can't read your mind. He can't understand how you think or what you're thinking unless you explain it to him calmly and rationally. More importantly, if you find a way to broach the issue in a "win-win" sounding scenario for him, it will make a lasting impression he's not likely to forget. You're happy, he's happy and it really didn't cost you anything at all.
Relationship can be very rewarding when you have a happy, healthy relationship on your hands. But they do take hard work and communication to keep on the straight and narrow. If you're considering a second chance or considering a move to get your ex back then you must watch this FREE video that has helped more than 50,000 couples just like you already. It provides invaluable information not only for the "getting back" process but also the "making it work" aspect of reconciliation.
He hurt you. There's no way to look past that. Whether he's the one who broke up with you or his actions (or lack thereof) led to the eventual breakup. Now he's sitting there across the table asking you for a mulligan or relationship do-over. How can you believe he's changed enough that a second chance will work out any better than the first?
Consider these few helpful advice in order for you not to experience again the issues between the two of you.
Don't Pick Up Where You Left Off
Second chances sound great on the surface but new beginnings are even better. With a new beginning you must both agree to wipe the slate clean and start over with the relationship. You can't hold on to old grudges and arguments. You also can't hold each other responsible for things that happened before. It's a new beginning and you must both be responsible for announcing problems and needs in the relationship before they become insurmountable. This, more than anything else, can help you avoid a second heart-breaking end.
Understand that it's OK to Disagree
Assuredly say, all couples have several issues where you need to say yes to disagree. It is necessary to be wise enough in picking up your battles. Sometimes you will come to the point that you should rise up for an issue or cause. Sometimes it is crucial to let your partner win the said issue. Other times, you just have the decision to disagree realizing that it's not really that important. It is a must for you not to agree on everything to have a favorable and winning relationship.
Learn to Ask Questions and Volunteer Information
We all have wants and needs in relationships. It's important that you avoid holding your partner responsible for the wants and needs you have that aren't being met if you never let him know what they are. You know so much about each other but there are still things that are mysterious about each other. He can't read your mind. He can't understand how you think or what you're thinking unless you explain it to him calmly and rationally. More importantly, if you find a way to broach the issue in a "win-win" sounding scenario for him, it will make a lasting impression he's not likely to forget. You're happy, he's happy and it really didn't cost you anything at all.
Relationship can be very rewarding when you have a happy, healthy relationship on your hands. But they do take hard work and communication to keep on the straight and narrow. If you're considering a second chance or considering a move to get your ex back then you must watch this FREE video that has helped more than 50,000 couples just like you already. It provides invaluable information not only for the "getting back" process but also the "making it work" aspect of reconciliation.
About the Author:
T Dub Jackson is the man behind the best relationship advice ebook ever sold online, The Magic Of Making Up. There are videos teaching you to get your ex back on T Dub's website. Visit his site now at http://www.getyourexbacknow.com/just_break_up3.html.
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